Survey: If you have 2 friends who are no longer talking & one asked you to not be friends to the other one...?

What would you do?





All things being equal, of course. Considering where you like them both and no one has done anything bad to you. These 2 just had a falling out. One was pressuring you to break off relations with the other one. What would you do?





Should a real friend ask you to choose between them and another friend?

Survey: If you have 2 friends who are no longer talking %26amp; one asked you to not be friends to the other one...?
No. I will not end a friendship because another person has asked me too. I am an adult and capable of choosing my own friends. If the person could not accept my position, it would be up to them if they would want to remain my friend.
Reply:No. A REAL friend would not give you an ultamatum like that. You can have many many friends. . . .each one of them appeals to different parts of your personality. For example. . . .one who is a good listener withouth offering "advice", one who likes to hunt but not a good listener, one who is a baseball fan but not a good listener and does not like to hunt. . .etc. etc. It CAN make it difficult though of that "friend" is constantly asking you about the other person and "trashing" their name. I have been in that situation before and just said, "If YOU want to stay my friend then you need to quit talking about _____________ as she is my friend too and OUR friendship has nothing to do with the firendship I share with her." It pissed them off, but they got over it. It also makes it hard when you want to share something you had done with the other but know it best not to becuase of the friction between the two of them. It sounds like you are in high school. Tell your two friends you are a real grown up person and think you are quite capable of choosing your own friends. If the STILL insist that you end the friendship then they apparently do not really care THAT much about your happiness, and a real friend would only want you to be happy.
Reply:A real friend would never expect that from you. I would tell the friend requesting such a thing that I would not do that and explain to them that this is unfair. If they don't like that person, they don't have have a relationship with them. They cannot expect you to do the same. They're trying to put their ideals in your head. You can do what you want, don't let someone else dictate who your friends should be.
Reply:I would let each of them know that i still like each of you and want to be friends with you both, but I will not be a pawn between you two.


You both work it out, if we all three can't be friends and do things together, then that is fine, but be a friend and don't ask me to choose.
Reply:If it was just a case of not talking I wouldn't get involved. Blatantly hurting another is a different subject altogether. A friend wouldn't need to ask in that situation. People who deliberately hurt others aren't the people I want to be close to.
Reply:Absolutely not. Don't let anyone dictate to you who you can or cannot associate with. It is very unfair for you friend to ask you to do this. Maybe she's not the type of friend you need, but that's for you to decide.
Reply:Just stay friends with the both of them ,do NOT take sides.. thats too risky cause u might lose the other.. Who knows somewhere down the road you can help mend fences between the two. Do not take sides with one friend and ask you to choose.. that sounds like kids in school..
Reply:Well. I would tell them that they are putting me in a terrible spot. Call me when you guys work it out. I have enough other friends that wouldn't put me in this kind of situation. Interesting question. It does sound so high school!
Reply:First and foremost...I do not play those games. At 60, I pick and choose my own friends and I don't take sides. I guess the friend that awas asking me to choose between them will lose. ♥
Reply:true friends dont give friends Old Tomatos!!!! or was it ultimatums? ♥
Reply:Tell them to get a life. No one should even try to make you take sides. I'm like Switzerland, I'm neutral all the time. LOL
Reply:A true friend does not impose that kind of choice on one.


I'd ask her to reconsider, and if she does NOT change her mind disregard her demand as being unfair.
Reply:that happened to me this year and i never got my other friends involved that's not right.
Reply:no but whatever
Reply:tell them to grow up
Reply:get rid of the friend who is making you choose! they are NOT a friend!